Tuesday, 9 January 2018

Why Dropping Out Of University Isn't The Worst Mistake Of Your Life

It's funny how life works out sometimes, isn't it? I went to a private all girls school for 15 years and University, for me, was the natural next step after sixth form. No one ever spoke about 'Apprenticeships' or 'Working', it was drilled into us that University was our only option and that we couldn't do much about it.
The majority of my late teens was spent thinking about UCAS and Personal Statements, and there was definitely more than a few nights spent stress crying about Uni options! I was always aware that there was a part of me that didn't want to go to University, but never acted on it as I felt I didn't have control over the decision.
I left school with a handful of very average marks and was eventually accepted into Northumbria University to study Social Work. I moved a mere 45 minutes away from my family home to a small flat in the city centre and started trying to get my head around my new life.
I knew from the second day there that I HATED IT. There is no way of sugar coating it, I was miserable. Despite being a train journey away from my family and boyfriend, I hated being alone and more so, the course I was doing was boring as hell. I spent the majority of my evenings listening to sad playlists on Spotify and wondering where it all went wrong (dramatic - I know).
I failed most of my assignments, due to complete lack of interest and by the end of first year I was told I had to resit or leave.
As most of you can probably guess, I decided to leave. At first it seemed like my world was crumbling around me, and the thing I had spent 15 years working for, suddenly seemed like a gigantic waste of time. But after having a lot of time to think about it, I've come to decision that, in-fact, this was the best thing I have ever done!

Now, there is my rambling back story, lets talk about you now.

I can fully understand the personal challenges that you have to face, in order to make this life changing decision. And although this decision should be made by no-one but yourself, I am aware that there is a lot of things that are stopping you from dropping out. Will my family judge me? Am I giving up too quickly? Am I letting everyone down? I can't stop you from thinking and feeling these things, but I can tell you that, the only person that matters in this situation is YOU! Yes, your family might be disappointed, which is understandable. And yes, you probably will have a fair amount of people judging you for it. But at the end of the day, it is your life, it is your future and your decision. Family will forgive and others will forget, it's just how life works.
If you feel that you aren't living the life you want, it's time to change that. We only get one life and we shouldn't spend it feeling like prisoners in our own world.




The best thing for me, was time to think. I spent a year being a barista in a coffee shop and thinking about where I thought my life was going. Taking that year out was the best thing for me, as I had time to think about what I enjoyed and mostly, what I was good at (which actually worked out to be...NOT MUCH). I figured out that I did enjoy being in education, but that Social Work was definitely not a course that had much interest to me. I also spent that year doing A LOT of research into local universities and courses that I thought seemed much more appropriate for my interests. I found a University 20 minutes away from my home and a course in Psychology - a subject I had really enjoyed in sixth form. Exactly a year after I dropped out, I begun my studies again, but this time in something that I wanted to do. I found a subject that I had a real passion in and gained life long friends that have made my life a hell of a lot better in a million ways.

What I'm trying to say, is that IT'S OKAY to drop out. IT'S OKAY to have personal challenges and struggles. And most importantly IT'S OKAY TO LET OTHER PEOPLE DOWN IF IT BENEFITS YOU IN THE LONG RUN! 

You may drop out of Uni and decide that, you want to pursue a different course - which is fine.
You may drop out of Uni and decide that, an apprenticeship is for you - which is fine.
You may drop out of Uni and decide that, getting a job is what is best for you - which is fine.
You may drop out of Uni and decide that, you want to do absolutely nothing - which is also fine.

I'm guessing that you get the gist? Whatever you decide to do IS FINE. Everything always seems like the end of the world when you are in the moment, but in the long run, it always works out okay. I'm a firm believer than everything happens for a reason (cheesy I know, don't judge me), and that life will always throw you challenges that you have to rise above and overcome.
At the end of the day, you do what's best for you, I cant stress the importance of this enough.

The message to take away from this is: YOU DO YOU!


If you have any more questions about my experience or questions in general. Please leave comments and I'll reply as best as I can.

Lou Katherine x



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